Adoption = Selfless not Selfish

I have read many different things lately about Adoption. The one thing that I notice right off the bat is how uneducated people are. First - when someone chooses adoption it is not an easy decision. There are many pros and cons. There are different situations that make a person choose this option.

Here are a few of those situations:

Maybe she is raped and feels that adoption is a better option than abortion or keeping.

Maybe she is too young to care for her child and she chooses adoption.

Maybe she wants something more than she can offer at that time.

Maybe she is on drugs and physically, emotionally, mentally can't handle being a parent.

For those people who say that it is selfish to choose this option, you are clearly not educated on this topic. Your words are hurtful and damaging. A person is not SELFISH for wanting more for her child. A person is Selfless, because let me personally tell you, putting your child before yourself is beyond selfish.

I know many woman who have chosen adoption but have struggled with their decision, because yes, it might have been the best thing for their child, it was not the best thing for them. They put their emotions aside and went through with the adoption and they have struggled because of that. THAT IS NOT SELFISH!

The next thing I want to talk about is how you say someone chose adoption. DO NOT SAY "she gave him up" She did not "give" up anything. Giving up would mean that you resign to failure! Adoption is not a failure. Do not use the term "GIVE UP" when referring to adoption. Instead say she placed her child for adoption. She gave her child more by placing into the arms of a loving family.

I just want people to be educated about adoption. I want it to be talked about. I want people to know that there are a lot of emotions attached to adoption. Whether you are the mother choosing adoption or you are a child who was adopted. It is heartbreaking to me that there are people out there who can say it is selfish. It is far from that. Before you tell someone that its the easy way out, you should educate yourself on adoption. Choosing this option is not the easy way out.

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